Rabbi Rome explains ratzon and the corresponding impact

Having all the information really helps us use our real free will and avoid mistakes.

On a recent trip to Brooklyn, we were lucky enough to find a parking space on the corner of 14th and 39th st. The sign said four hour max for metered parking, until 7 PM. However, there was no meter. Being from out of town, we were not sure what to do. A store was open and we ducked in and asked the owner about it. She told us the meters had been removed. So we said, so we don’t have to pay? And she said welcome to NY you do have to pay. So I asked her how do we pay if there is no meter. She said there is one around the corner on 39th street, pay and put the paid receipt in the windshield. Which we did.

We are trying to serve Hashem very much. But do we comprehend that there may be steps and a procedure that we don’t see or know about? Torah teaches it to us, but it is in the inner lights of the Torah, in understanding what emunah, faith and pleasure really are. Nevertheless, we are obligated even though we may not know about it. Our obligation is not something to be feared, however. It is a great joy to serve Hashem as He Designs us to. It is simply up to us to get all the information so that our use of real free will is the most impactful!

Here is an excerpt:

“Our personal growth is the external ratzon to get us to the end, to make this world a dwelling place for the divine through mitzvahs


“Going beyond our limiting beliefs is important but it is not the ultimate goal..we do that in order to do our higher purpose…so we may serve Hashem. we need to be in an optimal state so that I can truly serve in the way He designs us to. that is how we are a chariot.”

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Spiritual eye hand coordination is wisdom and understanding based on Hashem is doing everything

In sports that include balls, eye hand coordination makes the difference.  Being able to keep the eye on the ball is how the body is able to put its response to the ball into effect.  The brain makes the calculation based on eye contact with the ball.

Spiritually, the ball is Hashem is One, that He is doing everything. 

And there is much that interferes with our ability to keep our spiritual eye on that ball…namely a world, a body and ego that experiences ife as if it has independent existence.

But what if we had an instruction manual that helped us to spot the curve balls, the knuckle balls, the fast balls within our experiences of life?  What if we had a way of comprehending that the experience is coming not for its apparent sake but rather in order to be healed from its presenting form by being recognized and revealed for holy energy seeking to be brought through our spiritually oriented mind and heart into the world to bring blessing and revealed good?

Let’s take a glimpse at what our inner dynamic of darkness looks like in the moment those curve balls are flying towards us. 

“I am not getting what i need or want..

I hate you..

Uh oh you might figure that out..

Better go check to make sure you don’t pick up my resentment because if you did you might really hurt me…

Trying to cover it up with communication..

This person is impossible to get through to, I am doomed..

Why did I try…no one cares..so insulted..my urges all seem to be unacceptable because what comes to mind is to speak or do something hurtful that I do not wish to do..

I must be really bad for no one to care or I must  deserve such shame….”

This type of thought chain is coming from the subconscious. It causes us to shake and feel anxiety and panic. 

When this monster pattern begins, we are grateful that Torah has given us ways to identify the real culprits, which are the negative beings Hashem endows with Infinite Light in order to conceal that light so that a natural world can be seen.

Hashem loves us and He has designed our soul to extract His Infinite LIght from the grips of where He is concealed within nature.  He gives us real free will.  Nevertheless, it is a foolproof system, meaning either we choose to willingly bring in the light through recognizing Hashem and strengthening emunah and moving with all our hearts towards mitzvahs, or there is the foolproof back up plan of suffering, which then becomes also good, for our good, so that we may be a channel for that Infinite Light.

Hashem is concealed in nature, in water,wind, and fire.  What are the deficiencies in the natural elements?  There are four deficiencies, meaning four ways that the Infinite Light is concealed and trapped animating darkness rather than shining revealed light.  The four culprits of damages we learn in the Torah are the pit, the ox, the destroyer and the fire.

Let’s take a look at that monster thought pattern above again.

As soon as lack, the pit, presents, it is covering Hashem’s love.  Recognize Him.  Don’t be tricked –  love Him back and shower compassion on the Shechina in exile in order  to serve as a worthy vessel through which that Infinite Light may flow into the world.  Remember,  Hashem is doing everything. Now when our imagination quickly suggests – through the destroyer -that the lack implies an insult …such as they don’t love me, they insulted me, see it not as ourselves bur rather as it is – the messages from  the destroyer, and realize our true task at that point has nothing to do with the circumstance and only to do with our loving Hashem to forgo the natural way this feels in order to once again be that channel across which the infinite light animating the destroyer may flow into the world and bring kiddush Hashem. Go to only Hashem has honor and have compassion on the life force concealed by my honor…hold stesdy and ask for all of the strength to strengthen emunah and to bring the love and awe and honor into the world for Hashem, and may it be a protection and blessing for klal yisrael and the world…chodesh tov!!!

The storm calms. Our role is far greater than the role we initially believe – we have infinite importance and a way to build eternal identity out of the temporary raw materials of our lives – thank you Hashem!

Please join Rabbi Stauber’s ahavas yisrael project workshop to find a simple, positive pathway and hisbonenus meditation to help us with the above.

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A simple positive yet effective way to strengthen ourselves in ahavas yisrael and heal sinas chinam from Rabbi Ephraim Stauber



Thanks to Rabbi Efraim Stauber for creating a powerful simple positive workshop for simchas shel mitzvah of Ahavas Yisrael, including a hisbonenus exercise that helps us really shift ourselves to making choices in sync with our yetzer tov and divine essence.

Watch introductory video here


We are excited to offer this program in Adar as we head towards Purim. The enjoyable simple hisbonenus meditation really hits the spot for this time of year where we are increasing our simcha and is a great tool to enhance the ahavas yisrael stretches of the week and beyond.

May we each take on the sinas chinam challenge at this time. Please let’s give chizuk to each other by sharing success stories on the eKehilla site from all around the world!

In seven short videos and a wonderful hisbonenus meditative exercise, Rabbi Stauber gives us the ability to really heal the root causes of sinas chinam. In the process of doing this simple positive tool, he gives us a way everyone can enjoy that “converts” through real free will the strength otherwise powering our falls into Amalekian’s doubts into simcha and strong emunah and bitachon, building real Ahavas Yisrael and devekus.

The course is completely free. Sign up HERE.

In addition, introducing eKehilla.com the FREE online community to unify us in worldwide Ahavas Yisroel chabura. Rabbi Stauber has created an online chabura for global collaboration and discussion surrounding the Ahavas Yisroel workshop.

Let’s join together to improve our ahavas Yisroel. Share your insights, questions and journey so that we can increase achdus and joy in our relationships and between Klall Yisroel and Hashem! Click HERE to join the ahavas yisroel chabura located inside eKehilla- the place where busy Yidden Shteig!

Sensing the impact of the Shechina in exile within the naturally damaging culprits within us empowers us to respond out of love for Hashem

The soul Hashem sends to us every moment gives us life and all of our faculties and physicality.  Hashem designs us to have a function….that function is to be a channel through which His Infinite Light may flow into this world without obscuring the world with its Infinite light.  We have a subjective impression of our identity in this world that is, in actuality, an utter illusion built on the need for such in order to give us real free will.  As mindboggling as this may seem, once we prove it to ourselves through stronger and stronger emunah and seeing that Hashem really is doing everything, what is in our hearts that pains us becomes “fossil fuel” for eternal identity.

A lack of something pleasurable = just think of our lusts, urges,drives, needs, reactions, nervous system, and cause and effect thinking.  It is pretty clear that our subjective lives focus on reaching and pursuing happiness and survival according to our perceptions and our comforts, desires and goals based on our subjectivity.  From the time we are tiny, we are taught, if you want something, ask for it.   We are taught that with determination and will we can accomplish.

As we mature, we are taught IYH,only with Hashem’s help.  What we must plug into our thinking and system is that Hahsem is the only cause and the only effect, that He is, in true reality,doing everything in order to give us the conscious choice to align with His Will over our subjectivity.  In so doing, we truly participate in a creative act of Hashem Who is doing everything, by unblocking His Will and providing a channel for His Light to flow into the world.  Our intention and will connect us to the Source, where that unity enures to us as being part of Infinity and creating eternal impact..

Take a look at a young child, who is dependent for everything on the parents.  If the parent says no, even if it is for a good reason, the child immediately feels a lack.  Along with the lack comes a question – do you love me?  We see immediately the feeling of threat a child associates with lack, and, as we grow older, if we do not internalize that Hashem is doing everything and that He loves us and wants us to love Him back and trust that He is going to provide a good outcome, we devise coping mechanisms out of blaming and shaming of others to explain how much they upset us regarding our not getting what we want.  This can become quite painful, in dialogue as well as active steps.

The Arizal in Parshas Mishpatim describes the four kelipot that cause damages – the ox, the pit, the destroyer and fire.  Here we will see the underlying movements within our pain and THAT ALONE proves to us that these messages are not our essence but rather the challenge from which our eternal identity may be molded.

The ox is gevurah, strength, absent the awareness and will to use that strength to serve Hashem.  The ox damages in three ways – three types of strength – a grazing tooth, where the tooth is hidden or revealed, a trampling foot, or a goring horn.  These correspond to gevurah, hod and malchus and, unless the strength of the reaction is channeled into mitzvahs, this force causes damages. 

The pit is the absence of water, of chesed, of nurture.  This is often where our subjective experience starts – we are not getting our needs met.  Or someone is saying no to us.  Immediately there is a sense of insult – they don’t like me?  They don’t respect or appreciate me?  This is the destroyer, the fiery strength associated with honor and glory of our subjective image, the ego.

And then, we further investigate – the Ox reaction – did someone use a concealed tooth, etc – and when it is followed by the anger, our soul has been dragged into the seething waters.  We are disconnected from feeling close to Hashem and it is incumbent upon us at that point to take the action for which He designs us – TO LOVE HASHEM BACK, for He has placed us in this circumstance specifically to choose to love Him back and restore “water” chesed to the pit through loving Him and refusing to fall into the seething waters.  How do we let go of this deep and dark downward pulling seething water that seems to have strings in our stomachs and heart yanking at our thoughts?

What makes it possible to refuse to fall is strong emunah, emunah where we willingly choose to identify ourselves with our divine essence and to creatively design our eternal identity out of the strength but not the fabric of our reactivity. 

Strengthen emunah! 

Have compassion on the Shechina in exile that otherwise would, at this point, get further trapped and concealed even further in the cotton ball of imagination that blocks our spiritual arteries when we focus on what this means for my image, for my honor, for my survival and such self-aware orientations.

 Remembering that Hashem is doing everything and is all that there is actually gives us a role to play in the world of intention and consciousness that not only brings eternal identity and joy but also helps us walk with Hashem through the maze of feelings that tug at us trying to disconnect us from Him and drag our life force into the realm of nature and darkness.

We have real free will to connect to the Source of life.

We cry out to Hashem and tell Him that we are experiencing the pit, the ox, the destroyer (ego image) and the fire (all consuming destructive anger or fear).  Confessing does not mean there is something wrong because we experience these.  He designs us  specifically to experience these sparks from the world of chaos that fell into this world so that we may sniff them out and channel them back to Him through Torah, avoda, chesed and mitzvahs.

He desires when we find ourselves there, and really at every moment, that we rise above our nature in order to cling to Him, to strengthen our emunah and intend for all of what is stirring within us to flow into the world in the form of learning Torah, avoda, chesed and mitzvahs. 

This may seem counter-intuitive to our cause and effect thinking…our intellect believes it is independent of Hashem and that it has coping mechanisms to rely upon.  However, Torah tells us that Hashem Echad, He is One, and that we are here to unify and sanctify His Name, Yud K Vav K. 

We are here to love Hashem back by remembering that He is the first cause and the only effect.  Once we find that truth, the opportunity presented by the pit, the ox, the destroyer and the fire changes from reactivity and believing we are in need of following our survival instincts and coping mechanisms to clinging to Him by loving Him back so that we remain connected to the Only Being that is actually alive (He gives us life force and the experience of life and consciousness, but it is His) and choose our identity for all eternity by asking for the holy sparks concealed in the darkness and chaos to come through us via our keeping mitzvahs, praying. learning Torah or doing an act of kindness.

The voices of doubt that say, come on, or goody two shoes or it isn’t authentic for me simply are messages that hold a strength we can, lovingly and gently, bring to emunah.  It is okay if we are not yet there.  It is, however, our joy to tell Hashem that we desire for that strength to serve Him.

Teshuva is using real free will on free will itself, meaning that we take on the awareness that we desire to change our choices and our inner makeup to be like and with Hashem out of love and with simcha.

This is within reach.  It may take a lifetime, but it is the way that we can answer the question, what is my avodas Hashem in the moment?  Whatever it is that Hashem wants from me, which is in those circumstances, with those feelings, to choose to love Him over the illusion of how we feel, for that is, in fact, an illusion from which we may extract the Shechina in exile and re-garment Infinite Light into our mitzvahs and thereby build our eternal identity.

We are here to be a channel for real light to flow into the world.  What does it take?  It takes emunah, awareness, and the use of prayer and free will to ask Hashem for all of our heart and all of our soul and all of our might to serve Him over the deficient messages that our natural thinking devises.

Do you believe that you are a part of Infinity that is here as a channle for Infinite Light to flow into the world? Have you ever felt the sincha of the mitzvahs that is there when we choose this?  If so, the path of building upon this is infinite.

If not, how do you feel about beginning a hisbodedus , a personal dialoguing with Hashem on a daily basis?  Yes, seeing our sense of self as something to nullify sounds huge and scary, however, that is just a message of the natural order that simply wants our life force for its goals rather than for eternal goals.  Nullifying the sense of our natural feelings actually brings out our essence as one with Hashem, the actual place that literally has value because it is from the only Being that has value, Hashem.  We have value whether or not we realize this, as does every person.  We have real free will to grow our awareness of it and to bring all our strength to its goals.

What hurts us more than what we lack is the messages we tell ourselves about what the lack means.  This we can nullify.  Let us be willing to suspend belief in the illusion of circumstances that Hashem sends to us through defracted light and illusory interpreations so that we may corral all of the sparks and do what He desires, to flow the light into garments of repair – learning Torah, avoda, chesed and mitzvahs.

May the descriptions here make it possible for us to find these threads within us when we are experiencing darkness and may the pathway to strengthen emunah and ask Hashem for mercy so that we do not fall away from Him be granted a yes as we move to do His Good Will in the world.  And may we see a new light with simcha and everlasting love.

How we can really feel loved is by loving Hashem

There is a story about the child of a big rav who would travel to speak on Shabbosims The man said that although his famous father was not often there he knew his father loved him because in the mornings, when the father awakened the child, he had warmed the boy’s clothes on the heater and dressed him under the covers so that he was warm and not cold in his pajamas.  That was how he knew his father loved him.  His father took care of him and cared to the level of his bodily needs.

The condition of being a soul in a body is that Hashem is taking care of our needs but we think it is by our own hand because Hashem is so deeply hidden from us by our intellect having developed before we could understand Hashem is doing everything. Yet Hashem warmed our clothes for us, so to speak, by giving us the Torah.  When we follow the Torah and “put on ” its garments, taking off our “pajamas,” we feel the warmth of His Presence and the healing in our hearts.

How do we take off the pajamas?  The pajamas are our reptilian brain, our limbic system reactions, our intellect that developed in time and space without awareness that Hashem is doing everything and that instead “computes” and interprets on a faulty basis – our interpretations and feelings.  What warms the mitzvahs for us is when we can sense within those emotions how they parallel water wind fire and earth, the four foundations, the elements of creation. Torah tells us that Hashem is concealed in nature and when we take the time in hisbodedus to describe our reactions and we trace it to water/lusts/urges/desires, or fire/destruction/strength/anger/fear or wind/honor/speech/compassion/ruach hakodesh or earth/sadness/solid/laziness, we begin to see that we are, indeed, a part of Hashem  and in pajamas rather than in the royal garb befitting a life force hewn from Hashem’s throne.   

Once we come to see that the life force is trapped in pajamas – comfortable and familiar messages that are untznius and flimsy – we can see that our life force is only on the level of nature.

  Water, fire, wind.  If we desire love, trust that He loves us and begin to give love.  This drawns upon us His Love, which heals our hearts of the emptiness, the darkness of the movements and currents of our lives. And if we were traumatized and have fallen fear, we dig to the strong messages and judgments to find hidden within them our life force trapped in messages of survival and of feeling ourselves but in an illusion of being in control. A person is angry or hates because that gives the feeling of control whereas rejection (lack of water), sadness (downward pulls of earthiness), or pain (ego image regarding a lack) do not.

Torah comes to teach us that Hashem is the soul of the water wind fire and earthly elements, even as they are attached to our pajama messages, our flimsy childish interpretations that formed in our brain at early ages upon which we build our lives and our pursuits.  When we shower compassion on the life force trapped there, knowing He designs us to be a channel across which that life force can become revealed and re-garmented in Torah avoda chesed and mitzvahs, we ask for that strength to go to our emunah for the purpose of so re-garmenting. 

In order for us to withstand the bumpy experiences that refusing to listen to pajama messages entails imagine we are uprooting cedar trees or vegetation that has grown over many years  We need an elephant to pull it out!  Hashem is the one who does the heavy lifting.  We have the intention, the emunah, the love for Hashem and the awe in how He has designed us and we cry out in hisbodidus that we do not wish to fall.  We cling to Hashem is doing everything and that we know He loves us and we love Him and therefore shower this urge or impulse or thought’s soul with compassion because He is the one we love and we want to be the worthy vessel across which that life force may come into this world in royal garments, garments of Torah, avoda, chesed and mitzvahs.

Included in what will present itself is “Is Hashem amongst us?” the voice of doubt trying to push us into pajama messages but Hashem told us about that in Torah as well as showed us about that at Purim time.   Spot it and shower the soul within that with compassion too and bring that forth to strengthen emunah and do mitzvahs.

Hashem may I have water, fire, and wind to flow into the world according to Your Good Will and not according to pajama messages?  Hashem designs us for this very reason SO WE CAN BE CERTAIN HE WILL SAY YES.  Turn to mitzvahs and learning Torah.  Hashem is very big.  Whatever happens will be the very best outcome, and because we did the avoda that He instructs us, there is a simcha shel mitzvahs that results.

That simcha shel mitzvahs is addictive and there is no greater pleasure.  It is something that we would not give up for anything, although we do when we fall because we were not conscious that what we are doing will cost us that devekus. We begin to see how all we want is Hashem. 

When we experience simcha shel mitzvahs and we see that Hashem is also in charge of our circumstances and we notice changes in our circumstances, we know He loves us in a way that keeps us in devekus clinging to Him, for we are dependent upon Him for everything at all times.

Knowing this pathway is the greatest healing for any trauma or challenge.  We literally are able to redeem our life force from the grips of that darkness and turn it into simcha shel mitzvahs and devekus, the pleasure for which we are created.

Obviously this is not a secular therapeutic technique.  It takes a strengthening of emunah and the experiential growth of bitachon.  Nevertheless, this pathway is there and is available to everyone, no matter what, for He is our Father.  Let us comprehend this deeply and may the love for Hashem and the awe for the design arouse within us the fortitude to deepen our understanding of nullifying the sense of self in favor of being a worthy vessel through which Hashem’s light may be revealed through our redeeming it from water fire wind and earth that is attached to pajama messages and intentionally moving forward with Torah avoda chesed and mitzvahs as its new garment, royal clothes for the King’s Infinite light.  And may our effort to do so bring a redemptive light to the world and be a merit for klal yisrael and a salvation for mankind.

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Living with the emunah that Hashem is doing everything

The investment of a soul into a body is the greatest good that can be given to a person. Hashem gives us life. A soul is an emanation from Hashem that He sends into a body that can then have consciousness and mobility.

Adom HaRishon understood that his life was sourced in Hashem. HIs body was translucent and he used it to do mitzvahs. The eating of the tree of knowledge of good and evil caused the body to become opaque and that includes our consciousness, where instead of seeing that Hashem is doing everything, we are projecting an image of ourselves as the one who has power and control over our lives.

It is impossible to not feel this way.

However, we have a choice to go with this natural way of living or to strengthen emunah and ask Hashem to keep us from falling into the forces in charge of nature so that we may bring forth from the natural HIs Compassion and place it into mitzvahs so that He may be revealed in this world through Torah learning, prayer, chesed and mitzvahs.

He is going to say yes. This is the reason He creates the world and the soul. That said, it does not make the work of channeling the forces from the natural to the mitzvahs simple. It merely gives us the courage and the trust to face the challenge.

Our natural being experiences fight, flight, or freeze as our reactions when we encounter the perceived world. With learning Torah, we are able to reframe our implosions to garner from the deficiencies the strength of our reactions – our life force which is really His Shechina – and ask Him to please save us from falling into the natural because we desire only to flow His Light into the world according to His Good Will.

The key ingredient is our love for Hashem. No matter what is happening, we do not want our life force to get added into a pile of deficient messages. We want instead for all of the life force to flow as lovingkindness, gentle light, gentle warmth and kiddush Hashem into the world.

Beware of the cynical messages that inevitably show up. These come with doubts in the hopes of pushing us back into seeking our goals through natural solutions so that the forces of nature benefit from our life force.

May we forgive. May we recognize Hashem. May we exercies real free will to choose to go above nature and thereby “create” our eternal identity as one with Him.

We will for our life force to be a channel across which HIs Light may flow into the world, may it be a healing, a merit, a cancellation of gezeira and a satisfaction of din for the soul as it exists in myself my family and klal yisrael and may we all see a new light in the world.

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Torah teaches us how to live in touch with a plane of existence above our nature in a way that heals our pain and builds eternal identity

Anger is an illusion of control Hear Dr. Dovid Lieberman speak about the illusion of strength, of prefering anger over fear or sadness or disrespected. We don’t want to be rejected. Anger gives us the illusion that we are in control.

https://www.torahanytime.com/#/lectures?v=102286

Torah teaches us how to live in touch with a plane of existence above our nature in a way that heals our pain and builds eternal identity.

The practical description above is grounded in Torah as well.

Remember that we are here to be a channel for the fallen sparks of light from the world of tohu that are in chaos to flow through our choices to do mitzvahs into this world and reveal Infinite light?

When I was little, I would go fishing with my dad. We would get up before sunrise, go to the bait and tackle store and get worms, squid, clams and bait. Then we went to the beach, in the early dawning. The crabs would be scurrying across the water. It was my job to open the clams or cut the squid and get the bait ready. My father then put it on the hook. He had a chest high rubber boot suit and he would walk out into the ocean up to his chest to cast the baited hook into the ocean. When he would get a bite, he would reel it in and, if it was a kosher fish and not a sand shark, we kept the fish.

And then we would bait the hook again.

We are in this world to be a channel to flow the sparks lthat are in chaos back to Hashem. Thus Hashem places us in a body to experience the chaos. Icky worms, slimy clams, smelly squid. But if we want to catch the fish, we have to deal with it.

So how do we deal with the intimidations, the blame, the hurtfulness, the insults, the challenges that stir us up? After all, we are human too. Understanding the other person is human and is falling to the lures of the chaotic messages does not prevent us from having chaotic reactions! We are here to do something else with it. We are here to see we are falling and to cry out to Hashem, to cling to HIm, Hashem I dont want to fall here..I am seeing I am falling and it feels thus and so and I do not want to fall. Please lift me up. Please help me bring all of the light from this chaos into the mitzvah of ahavas Yisrael, or being muvater, or being patient, or speaking respectfully, or acting with kindness, or with forgiveness.

Yes, we feel our reactions. But if we comprehend that He is doing everything and He is counting on us to go with emunah to a mitzvah so as to bring the holy sparks to Him through our intentional choosing of a mitzvah, our simchas hachaim and ability to emulate Him as we build our eternal identity will become more and more sincere.

Experiencing deficiencies in water fire wind and earth does not mean we are doomed. It means we go to emunah and hisbodedus and empty the water wind and fire from the deficiencies into Hashem’s loving embrace and then ask to be a channel through which all of the light shine into the world by moving forward to bring His Goodwill into the world.

Please visit Identity for 2020 for resources on a journey towards such ideals.

Parsha Mishpatim from Rabbi Gedalia Segal based on Rabbi Usher Freund

We don’t make a separation between mitzvahs

After Parsha Yisro, after the ten commandments, it says I am Hashem your Creator, Your Master.  Parshas Mishpatim talks about laws that are between man and man.

Rashi says that these are the laws. The first laws are from Sinai and also these laws. The mitzvahs in relation between man and his Creator and the mitzvahs between man and his friend are all from Hashem and from Sinai.

There are mitzvahs that are between man and His Creator.  We keep them. It is written in the Torah.  When we have mitzvahs between man and his friend, like monetary disputes or certain injuries that people have or losses that they have sometimes, sometimes people have arguments with others, and they might go to secular courts in each country.  It looks like they differentiate between the mitzvahs of the Torah that they are living by keeping them, that they say you should be like a Yid in your house but like a person outside your house.  But a Yid that lives properly lives only according to the Torah.

If someone goes to the Rav and asks if the chicken is kosher, that same way he should go to ask if the ox of his friend that fell into his pit, what should he do.  The Rav is going to give an answer according to Shulchan aruch . He may not have to pay.  If he goes to a secular court, it may say he has to pay and enforces it.  It is not that he was hurt, but he is the one that is inflicting a wound. It is not that he was stolen from but he is the stealer because according to the Torah he is not supposed to pay him but according to secular courts the person has to pay him, so he reverses the law from what it is according to the Torah and he goes by the secular court.

Rabbi Yisrael Salant says that everyone that learns the laws of an ox that wounded the calf, it helps bring the fear of heaven.  A person learns mussar.  In all the parts of the Torah, the wisdom of Hashem is hidden.  Just learning it brings a person closer to Hashem.  Everything from the Torah is given from Hashem to Israel at Sinai and you cannot differentiate and say I will listen between me and the Creator but between me and my friend on monetary disputes, I won’t listen. You cannot do that. You cannot make a separation between two categories of mitzvahs.

You cannot separate between mitzvahs between a person and Hashem and a person and his friend.  You can’t say I am going to ignore that piece of it. A person has to know that any disputes with a person he has to go to a Rabbinic court and not a secular court.

Also from Sinai

These are the laws to put in front of them. Just like the ten commandments were given, so too these laws. The Torah is from heaven and the belief is in the Creator of the world, and our responsibility is to keep the commandments He gave us. Everyone from the nation of Israel has to live according to Torah, his eating, drinking, business, talking, thoughts..it all has the yoke of heaven on him, all his behaviors.  The laws of the gentiles and the secular courts, they are not from the Shulchan Aruch.  It is not like you go to a Rabbinical court.  If we go to a secular court, it desecrates Hashem’s Name.  a person that goes to secular court, it shows he does not believe in Hashem and that he does not believe in the Torah.  A person who is weak in their faith, they think that sometimes the laws of the land, the secular courts, they will give the law according to the law of the Yidden.  But if the judge is not a Yid and does not learn the Shulchan Aruch to become a Rabbi it does not go according to the Torah and it is a desecration of Hashem’s Name. It does not make a difference if a judge will rule according to the Shulchan oruch.  If a goy is going to give a Jewish law, it is a sanctification of Hashem’s Name. but if a Yid does not give a right judgment according to the Torah, it is a desecration of Hashem’s Name because he is not acting as a Yid and he should not be judging.  All of the judgments from Sinai are given as the basis of the Jewish faith and someone who does not live with this cannot give a proper judgment.

Rabbi Kalonomous Kalman says just like the 10 commandments were given with trepidation and fear, that is the same fear and humility we have to learn with monetary judgments regarding oxen that are injured and different people that are caretakers of object, if they get paid or not, all these laws. 

That is why it says just like we learn Torah for monetary disputes, do it with faer and trepidation just like we got Torah mSinai. Don’t forget the giver of the Torah.  Learn the laws with fear and trepidation as if at Sinai.

Section of Laws is an indicator of Divine Providence

Reb Isaac Scharf, in a mussar lecture, in Slobodka Yeshiva, where it says your grass will grow in the fields and you will eat and be satiated, he says Hashem Who is the Creator is talking to a person and promising that if we worship Him with all our heart then He will bless our fields and there will be plenty of grass for grazing and we will eat and be satiated. These words are frightening for anyone who thinks about them. Hashem Who is so great gives this knowledge to bless people with fields that provide grass and animals that will be satiated.  We come to understand that the whole world and all its needs is full with divine providence of Hashem and there is not a corner in our lives in all the land and in all the waters and in the sky that divine providence is lacking.

Come let’s look at the parsha now, injuries a person does to his friend.

Hashem in the Torah given to Moshe is saying how much people are required to pay if an ox hurt a different person’s ox, or if one person hurts another, or someone steals someone else’s sheep and sells or slaughters it. Hashem says all of this and says it for thousands of years for billions of people, it is from the heavens and goes into detail and more detail of different disputes regarding animals eating in another’s fields, or animals injuring someone else’s and how to pay for it, full or partial, and now to watch your ox so it should not injure and what does the thief pay, double?  What type of payment does he have to pay when it comes to fields or property.  All these details are written in the Torah at Sinai.  This Torah given at Sinai is with all its details important for us to learn and to do all its mitzvahs and to realize that the divine providence of Hashem is on every aspect of our life in every place that we are in this world.

Laws from Sinai

In the laws of the gentiles that we have, sometimes you have to know when people are engaged in earning a living, he has to know what he is obligated in according to the law of the land. These laws change even on  a yearly basis. We make a difference between the holy and mundane, in our Torah, and this is something we take each law and we see the importance.  We learn it in depth because these are laws that are from the Creator. 

In this parsha we know the laws of an ox that are injured, we gave someone to watch our possession and it gets lost, or we learn the laws of someone who steals, or that we are not allowed to hurt an orphan or widow, or someone who is impoverished, not to take advantage when you make a judgment, or when you see a donkey of your enemy and he is crouching because of his heavy burden, you have to help him unload the heavy donkey.  You are allowed to hate this person because he is not acting accordingly but you are responsible to help him in this situation.  What type of law can you find in relation to the way a person feels emotionally to have mercy and to take part in the burden of an animal that has fallen?  These are all laws that are obligations for every Jew, not only when he sees the suffering of his fellow man but in any situation. 

They are given to Israel to be a nation to Hashem by taking the Torah and mitzvahs, to keep Shabbos, sit in succa, but it is also an obligation to see the suffering of your friend and to help him in the situation he is in. these are the laws from Hashem at Sinai who is compassionate and does good. Certain laws, when you see the secular laws and then the Torah, we see we will do and we will listen.  That is what the Jews said.

The laws are monetary laws, wounds and relationships between people and then at the end it talks about the giving of the Torah.  We said we will do and then we will hear.  First they accepted it, we will do.  Interpretations are many. How can we do before we will hear, how can we do before we hear?

Some explain that the keeping of the mitzvahs and learning Torah, a Jewish person has to keep the mitzvahs, to put on tefillin, to eat matza on Pesach.  A person has to do this before he understands the reason to do them. Only the ones that want to first investigate the reasons for all the mitzvahs and then afterwards keep them, they approach it in the reverse manner to we will do and we will hear.  We are going to do it whether or not we understand the reasons. After we listen then we will learn to understand the reason. 

For example, we are not allowed to write on Shabbos. Then we learn why.  The Melachos are from the mishkan and there was writing, they wrote on the walls and boards of the Mishkan, they wrote to know how each board is paired with another board.  Then we larn what is called writing, what resembles writing and all that we are not allowed to do on Shabbos. If we wait until we understand, many years pass by before he is doing the mitzvahs and it is possible for a person to pass away before even doing one mitzvah.

When it comes to the judges, these are the laws that you should put in front of them, the Shulchan aruch like a table ready to eat. Every judge has to know the law and all the reasons and investigate. When he makes the judgment he has to ask the witnesses and get all the information and when the judgment is one way or another, a judge has to learn at the beginning how to keep the commandments so that a wrong judgment that implicates the innocent or absolves the guilty.

That is why it says at the beginning of the parsha, and not the same at the end of the parsha where it talks about all the people, the regular nation, doing and then listening, but for the judges, they have to set their table first, understand the whole thing clearly.  The whole nation does not have to understand so clearly but the judges have to understand so they can make a propler judgment.

The relationship between the verses in the Torah

Someone who kidnaps and sells someone, that person has to die as well as his parents. What is the relationship between these two verses. Reb Saadia Gaon says a child that was kidnapped, most of the time from his parents and sold to others and raised in a different environment from his father and mother, it is possible he will come to a situation that he will curse his parents because he does not understand how much he is supposed to honor them and that he is not allowed to not respect them.  He won’t understand.  It comes out that the one who kidnapped cursed his parents and this is why these two verses are one after another.

It arouses in our hearts the tragedy of the education of thousands of Jewish children who grow up without the proper knowledge that are taken away from the bosom of their Father in heaven.  They are educated in secular system that unfortunately does not know Torah. They also could come to curse their father and nmother because it is really their father and mother, because their lack of knowledge, they did not get a proper education.  The fifth commandment is honor your mother and father, and it is like all the commandments. There is no exaggeration, everyone who knows the nature of these children, they know how low they fell in the mitzvah of kivud av v’em and sometimes they make the lives of their parents so bitter. Only those children that are raise din the mesora of their father’s Torah know what a father and mother are, to be careful in their honor, to value them and not cause them pain or anguish.  Whoever has the education of the Torah it is a simple matter to him, there is nothing else to think about. They respect their parents and the children that were kidnapped from Torah education and got a secular education they end up cursing their parents unfortunately.

If the Master is with him

Seven times a righteous person will fall and pick himself up again.  If seven times a righteous person falls in sin, he won’t get discouraged, he will stand up again and do teshuva and try to repair it. He won’t give up hope. He will find a way to fix what he did wrong. He will raise his eyes to the Creator and say I sinned such and such but don’t throw me away from You. Take me out of this place of sin and its punishment. He does not leave Hashem and Hashem doesn’t’ leave him either and He helps him return and fix what he did wrong.

It is very bitter someone who leaves Hashem and doesn’t pick himself up to do teshuva.  The Chaim Rev says a person who asks from his friend something, he borrowed something and it broke or its owners died, he has to pay. The neshama is the person’s friend.  If a person asks from his neshama to engage in things that are mundane matters and it is broken, meaning he got caught in sin or it died (he fell into a transgression that caused his death), if in such a situation that he leaves Hashem that is really His Owner and the Creator of the whole world, and he is going to give up, then he is going to end up paying in this world and in the next world for his friend, because he gave up on teshuva. It is very painful for him. His punishment is double in two worlds. But if he does not leave Hashem, his Owner is with him, he has hope to do teshuva, then he will know Hashem is always with him even in the lowest depths and he is going to call out to Hashem from the lowest depths.  I call to You from the lowest depths that You will help pick me up and help me do teshuva, then he will save himself from punishment and at the end his sin will be forgiven.

WE are Hashem’s children and He is our father and when the son knows he fell low and he screams to his father to help lift him from the depths that he fell, Hashem will. If a person goes further way from going in sin, anyone who is pushed away won’t remain so.  There is always one string that remains connected to His Creator and is never lost and the hope to return and to fix what the person stumbled is something that will help the person return to Hashem in complete repentance.

Simchas shel mitzvahs is our joy as we run and return

We are created for the delight of experiencing the simcha of bringing Hashem’s Goodwill into the world.  Yet that simcha which is  present each time we fulfill a commandment may or may not be felt in our hearts and our boides.  Immediately we see the paradox of life that has been given to us in order that we not only have real free will, such that Hashem does not force us to serve Him,but so that we, by choosing to keep the mitzvahs and ;pursue connection with Hashem while we are alive, in a paradox, we are accepting Hashem’s plan for us to participate in a creative act of our own identity as a creator of our eternity.

Now that is a mouthful.

Let’s face the facts.  Hashem is doing everything.  He loves us.  He flows life force to us from which we are able to have a lifespan, intellect, and an individual unique mission within the mission of klal Yisrael, which is Torah avoda, chesed and mitzvahs.

There are a few things we need to understand about Torah, however, to comprehend WHY Hashem wants us to flow our life force into learning, chesed, prayer and mitzvahs.

Torah is the vessel Hashem has designed in order to provide a pathway for holy sparks to flow from chaos into this world as revealed Light.  There is an actual purpose to the creation all together, which is for Hashem to dwell in this world in a manner where this world will continue to be visible.

Within the material of this world, Hashem places a life force that is emanating from Him into a physical body that is formed from the plane of existence of nature.  We are composed of water (liquid), wind (gas), earth (solid) and fire (radioactive) atomic particles, yet His Strength (compassion) is the bonding force of every atom.

What can we expect from ourselves, made from such atomic particles in a world where our intellect develops before we can ever know that Hashem is doing everything?  How can we come to naturally experience in our hearts and bodies a simchas shel mitzvahs?  Can it be really felt?  How can we be expected to want it more than our creature comforts?

Hashem places an emanation from Himself into a body and gives us the Torah with which to struggle with this choice, for our entire lifetime.  It is the avoda of moving from one plane, the plane of our natural experiences, to another plane, the plane of Torah, avoda, chesed, and mitzvahs, that He desires, for this is the design for how the hidden sparks of chaos return to Him and then flow through us into the world through our choice to do mitzvahs.

Thus, our moment to moment experience is the paradox of feeling ourselves and our own comforts, goals, happiness and enjoyment versus feeling a yearning for simchas shel mitzvahs with trust that Hashem Who is doing everything also knows how to comfort us and bring us happiness on the natural plane of existence. He knows and He is the only Source for these to come to us, for He is the first cause and the only effect on everything in His Creation.

The benefit of submission to going to emunah in order to act for the joy of simchas shel mitzvahs is that we actually become independent agents in the process – not independent of Hashem, but rather independent from human nature, from the gravitational downward pulls dragging us into feeling ourselves so much that we begin to think we must find solutions within nature because that is all there is, chas v’shalom.  Despite how goodly we build our societies, without the intention of our efforts being to reach out for the end of the paradox, meaning to break out of the plane of natural existence in a run and return that emits a holy spark of light from the world of chaos back to Hashem so that the elements, water wind and fire may shine in this world without deficiencies, all we will see in the world is a reflection that includes deficiencies.

It is easy to comprehend what that looks like…every day we are seeing and hearing things that cause us to remark about how could that happen?

What if we truly understand that our every moment matters and creates an imprint, a positive or a negative influence, that Hashem then uses within the creation?

Imagine if we could take our worst pains and turn them into love and light.

Imagine if we could break out of our most troubling patterns and begin to feel calm and confident that we both have love and can give love?

There is a river of love flowing to us.  It is called our life force.  We have consciousness and an experience of life because Hashem is lending life to us and giving us consciousness. He is giving us a body and all the means to exist in this world and He is asking us to see that the life force is used to do mitzvahs, to pray, to do acts of kindness, and to learn Torah so that His Plan of flowing the sparks from chaos into this world can come to fruition through our love for Him, our awe in the design, and our free willed choice..

Now imagine that as that life force comes to us, there are three “leaks” that want that life force to flow into the darkness rather than into Torah, avoda, chesed and mitzvahs.

“How about a little more to eat first” (Am I truly hungry or am I listening to a message that is interested in my life force for its sake rather than for the sake of mitzvahs?)

“How about a short nap beforehand?” ( Am I truly tired or am I listening to a message that is interested in my life force for its sake rather than for the sake of mitzvahs? )

“How do you know what you are going to do will be appreciated?” (Am I truly interested in serving Hashem or am I interested in honor and ego pleasure ? )

“She did what? And you are going along with that? ” (Am I judging and condemining another with destructiveness in my heart or giving the benefit of the doubt and making a decision based on my relationship with Hashem?)

“So and so already did that very well and you are copying!” (Is my motivation out of jealousy or to increase warmth and light in the world? )

All of these messages and more crop into our thinking in order to “trap” our life force in the plane of jealousy, lusts, desires, urges, craving for honor, and creature comforts,  fire, water, wind and earth. These are the deficiencies introduced into our consciousness from having ingested from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, deficiencies that, without knowing Hashem is doing everything, form togehter are our and everyone’s natural identity and ego.

Let us receive every moment asking ourselves whether our heart is pointed towards simchas shel mitzvahs and serving Hashem or whether our heart is pointed towards choices that we believe will bring about the feeling of ourselves that “make sense” on a plane of human nature.  How?  What is the hashgacha of the thought, emotion, or motivation – feeling ourselves or flowing light into the plane of existence of Torah?

If we try to make this choice intellectually, we run up against the subconscious that is far from sincere in its yearning for anything except feeling itself.  This is our struggle, our paradox, the focus of our efforts.  In hisbodedus, we bring out these thoughts and urges and, rather than accommodate them, we speak to them lovingly and point out how Torah really will work much better for its goals – why?  Hashem is the first cause and the only effect. He is doing everything. 

Recognizing our deficiencies is exactly what Hashem wants from us.  He knows they are there. He designs them and places our soul there IN ORDER for us to tell Him about it and that we want His Light to flow into the world without these deficiencies we are confessing to.   “I will lift them up because they know My Name.”  The release of the life force from the deficiencies that then happens brings to our hearts simchas shel mitzvahs. And we can have more and more, each time.

We have real free will, emunah, an ability to sniff out the simchas shel mitzvahs, and the Torah to teach us.

Best we can do is run and return with this, but doing so gives our soul the experience of truly creating and being like Hashem and with Hashem.

Getting ready to increase simcha how do we access it

What i have learned is that my struggles contain force that is painful, but that force is actual potential simcha when I recognize it as Hashem, concealed in nature and judgment – Elokim.


Thru our emotions, water wind fire, and our natural cause and effect thinking, He shows us where to find our hidden potential for simcha..in the absolute Chesed of life force being concealed in the pain – the Shechina in exile…and to not get distracted by the intensity and feeling of ourselves. Rather, run and return all of the water fire and wind using real free will to go to emunah – cling to His Name, yud k vav k, the thirteen attributes He tells us to cry out to Him with, and draw close to Him through being a willing channel for all of the Infinite light to flow into mitzvahs, out of love for Him our intentions.

He does the rest.

This is nullification.