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Empowering explanation of how to change our relationship with our painful and challenging experiences

Every person is made in Hashem’s image

Hashem only created one soul, the soul of Adom

Every person has a soul that can choose to emulate His 13 attributes of mercy.

Tomer Devorah describes Hashems 13 Attributes of Mercy

These attributes are the focus of our Elul davening and high holidays

Hashem is King

Hashem is One

He knows that we are made with a physical existence that is based in nature

Earth, fire, wind and water

The chemical structures of the atomical makeup of solid, liquid, gas and radioactive materials are contained in our makeup

This is how Hashem gave to Adom the ability to create influence over all the creation.

With our intention to serve Hashem and our sincere prayer, we mix into the elements our emunah

It did not rain until Adom prayed for rain.

Moshe was not permitted into Israel because he hit rather than spoke to the rock, and the Jewish people did not “see” the amazing role our prayer and speech plays in the way Hashem maintains nature.

No one is perfect

We all make mistakes

Hashem is forgiving and all loving

Yet we are instructed to love Hashem with all our heart, all our soul and all our might.

Meaning that whatever thoughts or emotions we are experiencing, there is a might in it.

When a part of our soul is trapped in a false idea or identity, and that may be the case for many years or decades, that becomes a place of challenge and a source for having compassion on the Shechina that is in galus, imprisoned within, our struggle.

Understanding this changes our relationship with the challenge.

Whatever caused the part of our soul to be trapped, our free willed choice to love Hashem and shift what is gripping our identity to being made in the image of Hashem’s 13 attributes of mercy is a constant option that Hashem waits patiently for us to use to release the energy He wishes to bring healing and bracha from its hidden trap.

What do we believe more, our past history and programming based on experience, or Torah that tells us we are made in the image of Hashem’s 13 attributes of mercy with a Keser, composed of the soul’s powers emunah, taanug and ratzon?

Just because we may never have heard about this does not negate its truth.

Each person has an ability to release an amazing energy that Hashem sends to us that without realizing it remains trapped due to our having an unconscious mind (desires lusts) and a subconscious mind (ego, false belief in autonomous independent existence, power.

We can craft from within these drives. But our success is never a guarantee. That is because we are not I charge, Hashem is.

So if Hashem is in charge, and a part of our soul is trapped in these drives, and we have the power of emunah and the gifts of free will and creative speech, it makes sense for us to take THE action we have 100% control over that is always successful, and that is prayer, sincere prayer.

Hashem all we want is for every ounce of our energy to be absorbed and aligned with the healing, blessings and good that You will for the whole world. We do not wish to divert any energy or block it from Your Plan.

You Hashem tolerate our insult every time we think of ourselves instead of Your Will. You permit us to continue to live and even thrive. You help us. You want us to arouse love in our hearts for You and to serve You from that love, once we recognize and develop the awe of how You have created everything.

Many of us have trapped energy. Without realizing it, our choices are often based on the avoidance of pain from powerful people. Our will conforms to the avoidance of pain.

Whatever messages we get from people cannot compare to the constant message we receive from You, of being made in Your image, but the opinion of powerful people feels to us to be more immediate.

And people have come to understand how to dominate others, giving them a dose of a shocking word or scene so that the natural makeup of the mind trains the person to the will of the person desiring to wield power. But really, that person trying to dominate is causing a shock to the system of the other person, and each of us is vulnerable to then trapping something of our life force, the Shechina, in false ideas or identity. How do we know it is a false identity? The ninth commandment teaches us to not bear false witness and it corresponds to the ninth utterance “let us make man in our image”. Whenever we succumb to the anxieties and worries and fears in place due to the behavior of other people, we are giving in to believing that the person has power over us rather than Hashem, which is not true. People can certainly hurt us. People can cause shocks to our system. People can kill us, heaven forbid. But no person has power over us because our soul is made in the image of Hashe’s 13 attributes of mercy. In exploring our own emotional landscape, if we have not built emunah to help us, very often the pain traps our energy in the false belief.

Hashem is patient and He waits for us to realize that the only Glory in the world is He and that there is no other Power. He desires us to discover and choose this reality with our free will. Doing so is the basis for His giving us the greatest pleasure, of being connected to Him for all eternity, in a way that only our free willed choice can accomplish. Without choosing it freely, we would not receive the complete pleasure. Instead, we will feel embarrassed.

And thus our experience of guilt and shame regarding our mistakes teaches us that the discomfort of those feelings is one we wish to feel only here, and not for all eternity. Opening up the false ideas about our identity becomes key to being able to re-associate all our energy with emulating Hashem’s 13 attributes of mercy.

Once we see everything as being filled with Hashem’s glory, we realize that everything we do is designed to release trapped energy from a place of constriction so that it can fulfill its mission of bringing healing and blessing to the world instead.

What benefit does defensive conduct have if we understand this? Someone sees a fault in us. We make a mistake. Perhaps we even break a commandment. The Shechina is suffering in the constriction of the darkness within our error, desiring to return to the role of bringing healing and blessings, but it is trapped until we do teshuva, regretting our error and re-directing the energy.  Hashem accepts our teshuva and wipes away our errors and sins. Until we see how to do teshuva, time after time, we are “shaped” by those believing in their ability to dominate the game of life, causing injury to our natural mind so that our emotions become fearful and submissive to our own demons within. When we understand that we are NOT the labels, that no one has power, we can begin to do the work of releasing the energy back towards healing and blessings. Yet it is important to note that if we tell someone, including ourselves, that no one has any power over us except Hashem, we must also tell them that the reason it feels as though others have power is because of the design of our mind and nervous system yet is not the design of our life force that is made in the image of Hashem’s 13 attributes of mercy. It is normal to experience this constriction. It should not add to our distress because we feel it. Feeling it is normal for our natural being. The challenge is to remember Torah and to pray fervently re-directing all firey passion to learning Torah, praying fervently, and emulating Hashem.  We have real free will.  Those who wield power mock either our ignorance of this or our reliance and trust on Hashem, shaming us further with shocks to our natural system, hoping we will succumb to the natural if we don’t have emunah or lose our emunah and succumb to the natural.

Those who wish instead to be nurturing explain to us our physical makeup as well as its purpose, to give us understanding about how we have real free will to choose who our eternal identity will be. That is how we know who is using their soul powers to emulate Hashem’s 13 attributes of mercy.

The same goes for us. We must see that we should never mock ourselves, put ourselves down, feel cynical, or  feel guilty or shamed for making normal mistakes in time and space, especially regarding our errors as children or teenagers, who are fraught with opportunity to make mistakes as we grow. Our true identity is made in the image of Hashem’s 13 attributes of mercy and we have real free will to base our esteem on our effort to align our thoughts speech and deeds with that truth. We turn our prayers to Hashem and ask for His Help in shifting all the trapped energy within us from the places our natural being has  become constricted to clinging to tolerating insults, overlooking faults, bearing the burden of confusion of mind, forgiving and casting sins into the sea. We express our emunah that all Glory and Power is Hashem’s and that we yearn for is that what life force is being sent through us should be used only for Hashem’s vision of healing and blessings. Once we have shifted our identity to our effort to cling to Hashem, it is far easier to release the energy trapped in natural ego based associations about who we are.

We can also ask Hashem that our teshuva, our returning this energy into His Service, be a merit for all and ask that He create positive empowering influence to help release the Shechina trapped by those who unwittingly may believe that dominating, shaming, mocking or harming is serving as a way to use the life energy Hashem designates for His Will. All of us experience a desire at times to do so because that is the natural reflex of the unconscious and subconscious minds. Once we come to understand our spiritually mature role, to elevate energy from the coverings over the soul that is made in Hashem’s image, we see the emunah we need to be self-sacrificing, to behave with menuchas hanefesh sincerely, throughout our days, in every moment.

The experience of pleasure in the form of calmness and well-being is how we know that our making the effort to live with the truth that Hashem fills all worlds and is the only Glory while there is uncertainty is the way to go!  Choose to follow Torah and emulate Him over all natural urges that may oppose that view!  Doing so aligns our life energy so that the healing and blessings He wants to come into the world is NOT clogged up by our natural brain reactions and our overlooking the opportunity to strengthen our soul’s power of emunah.

Changing our relationship with our natural reactions IS how we come to develop spiritual maturity and don the role of Nishmas Am Yisrael to create spiritual nourishment by infusing emunah into the atoms that compose all, solid, liquid, gas and radioactive.  And in the process we rectify our own unrectified characteristics, bringing us to an identity that more and more clings and resembles tolerating insults, overlooking faults, bearing the burden of confusion of mind, forgiving, and casting sins in the sea.  From there, we can be helpful, nurturing, patient, forgiving, loving, and devoted servants of Hashem.

Hashem Echad!

Why and how to distinguish between, recognition, gratitude, esteem, respect and honor

Hashem fills all the worlds

Hashem creates us in order to have a relationship with His 13 attributes of mercy in  a being that has consciousness to recognize Him

Hashem gives us consciousness and free will through pairing that consciousness with a body that has natural urges

The only autonomous independent choice we have , the only real free will we have,  is choosing our eternal identity based on whether we will fear Hashem  and yearn for the experience of being close to Hashem (which begets His Kindness) or fall into the unconscious and subconscious magnets of jealousy, lusts and craving for honor (intentionally, unintentionally, or by default for not seeking more consciousness in the areas of our blind spots)

Our identity then is an outgrowth of that real autonomy to choose to yearn for closeness to Hashem over fearing other powers

Being faithful to the only glory is Hashem when we are insulted, frustrated, humiliated, degraded, damaged or any other real challenge demonstrates our love for Hashem and desire that His healing and blessings flow through us into the world, that we are mesiras nefesh the natural experiences out of total emunah in Hashem Echad and a yearning for the experience of closeness with Him and His Kindness

Not getting the respect you deserve? It’s an identity theft scam!! Go to the truth, being made in the image of Hashem’s Mercy!!

Hashem fills all the worlds

Hashem creates us in order to have a relationship with His 13 attributes of mercy in  a being that has consciousness to recognize Him

Hashem gives us consciousness and free will through pairing that consciusness with a body that has natural urges

The only autonomous independent choice we have , the only real free will we have,  is choosing our eternal identity based on whether we will fear Hashem  and yearn for the experience of being close to Hashem (which begets His Kindness) or fall into the unconscious and subconscious magnets of jealousy, lusts and craving for honor (intentionally, unintentionally, or by default for not seeking more consciousness in the areas of our blind spots)

Our identity then is an outgrowth of that real autonomy to choose to yearn for closeness to Hashem over fearing other powers

Being faithful to the only glory is Hashem when we are insulted, frustrated, humiliated, degraded, damaged or any other real challenge demonstrates our love for Hashem and desire that His healing and blessings flow through us into the world, that we are mesiras nefesh the natural experiences out of total emunah in Hashem Echad and a yearning for the experience of closeness with Him and His Kindness